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Writer's pictureKarolina Mankowski

THE GREAT AWAKENING: Why Women Are Leaving Men Who Won't Do The Inner Work


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men doing the inner work

The energy in my healing space was heavy with unspoken truth as Sarah sat across from me, tears streaming down her face. "He's not a bad man," she whispered, her voice catching on each word, "but I can't keep carrying both of our emotional weight anymore. I'm just... so... tired." Her words echoed what I've heard countless times before, a testament to a profound shift happening in relationships across the globe.


This conversation wasn't unique. As someone who has worked with thousands of souls on their healing journeys, I've witnessed a pattern that's impossible to ignore: conscious, emotionally evolved women are walking away from men who refuse to do their inner work. And in the depths of my heart, I understand why.

We're living in the most spiritually abundant time in human history. The universe has quite literally conspired to make healing accessible to everyone.


Sacred wisdom flows freely through YouTube videos, ancient teachings rest in our digital libraries, and healing guides stand ready to support transformation. The barriers to accessing spiritual growth have crumbled, leaving us with nothing but choices.

Yet here we are, watching countless divine masculine souls resist their calling to evolve.


I see it every day in my practice. Men clinging to "I'm fine" like a shield, wearing "that's just how men are" like armor, dismissing therapy as "not for them," and labeling spiritual work as "too woo-woo." Meanwhile, their partners – these magnificent, conscious women – are carrying the weight of entire emotional worlds on their shoulders.


These women are managing household energies, processing everyone's feelings, scheduling therapy appointments, devouring self-help books, and attempting to heal generational trauma – all while trying to maintain their own spiritual practices. They're doing the work of two souls, until eventually, inevitably, they realize they can't anymore.


The Raw Truth From the Dating Front Lines


I need to pause here and share something deeply personal. As a spiritually evolved woman who has invested years in my own inner work, I'm watching this play out in real-time in my dating life, and the pattern is both exhausting and illuminating.


Time after time, I witness men run away like scared children from their own growth. The moment they realize they're dealing with a woman who can see through their unhealed patterns, who won't coddle their wounded ego, who expects them to match her level of self-awareness... they run. Like cowards, they retreat back into the safety of their unconscious patterns, led by their insecurities rather than their potential.


We can feel your fear. We can see your patterns. And quite frankly, it's not attractive anymore."

It's painfully predictable. The initial attraction is strong – they're drawn to our light, our strength, our deep feminine wisdom.

They say they want a "strong woman," an "independent woman," a "spiritual woman." But the moment that strength reflects their own shadows back to them? The moment we refuse to dim our light to make them comfortable? They disappear.

As an evolved woman, I can spot these patterns within minutes now. The subtle deflections when deeper topics arise. The nervous laughter when therapy or personal growth comes up. The defensive posturing when their behaviors are questioned. It's not just boring – it's disheartening.


Because here's what these men don't realize: their avoidance is transparent to us. We can feel their fear, their resistance, their unwillingness to face themselves. And quite frankly, in 2024, it's not attractive. A man who is actively working on himself, who can hold space for deep conversations, who isn't afraid of his own shadows? That's magnetic. That's sexy. That's what we're looking for.


But these men are rare gems in a sea of unconsciousness. And while the others run from their growth, making excuses and hiding behind their wounds, evolved women are choosing to walk alone rather than carry another person's unhealed burden.


The Crisis of the Unhealed Masculine


We're living in the most spiritually abundant time in human history. We have:


  • Free spiritual teachings on every platform

  • Accessible therapy options

  • Life-changing books at our fingertips

  • Meditation apps galore

  • Energy healers and spiritual guides

  • Men's groups and sacred circles

  • Breathwork ceremonies

  • Shadow work resources

  • Trauma-informed coaches


Yet so many men are still choosing to stay stuck in their wounds, hiding behind:


  • "I'm fine"

  • "That's just how men are"

  • "I don't need help"

  • "Therapy is for crazy people"

  • "This spiritual stuff is too woo-woo"


The Energetic Truth That Changes Everything


Here's the truth that's echoing through the collective consciousness: we are all energy. Your unhealed trauma isn't just "your business" – it's a force that ripples through every aspect of your existence. That anxiety your partner feels? It's her divine feminine intuition picking up on your unprocessed anger. Those children acting out? They're absorbing your suppressed emotions. That promotion you missed? Your unhealed wounds are blocking your abundance channels.


Every day I witness the cost of spiritual resistance. I see it in the dissolved marriages, the broken families, the missed opportunities, and the dimmed divine light in men's eyes. The price of staying asleep is becoming too high to bear, and women are choosing peace over partnership, growth over stagnation, evolution over comfort.


The Cost of Staying Asleep


When you refuse to do your inner work, you're not just hurting yourself. You're:


  • Perpetuating generational trauma

  • Dimming your divine masculine light

  • Blocking your abundance channels

  • Poisoning your relationships

  • Suppressing your potential

  • Limiting your growth

  • Draining your loved ones


And in 2024? Women are done carrying that burden.

They're choosing:


  • Peace over partnership

  • Growth over stagnation

  • Evolution over comfort

  • Self-love over martyrdom

  • Freedom over familiar pain


But kings, beloved warriors, this isn't a condemnation – it's a call to awakening.

Your healing journey doesn't need to be perfect. It doesn't need to be profound. It simply needs to begin. Start with a single breath, a moment of vulnerability, a whispered admission that perhaps there's more to discover within yourself. Your soul has been waiting for this moment, patiently sending you signs, leaving breadcrumbs of light along your path.


I witness the transformation daily in the men brave enough to answer the call. There's Mark, who started with simple breathing exercises and now leads a men's circle in his community. There's James, who reluctantly attended one therapy session and discovered a well of strength he never knew he possessed. There's Michael, whose decision to work with an energy healer not only saved his marriage but transformed his entire approach to leadership.


These men aren't special or chosen – they simply said yes to their soul's yearning for growth.


The divine masculine is being called to step into its power in a way we've never seen before. This isn't just about saving relationships or personal growth – this is about healing the masculine collective. Every man who steps into his healing journey breaks ancestral chains, elevates the collective consciousness, and changes the future for generations to come.


When you heal, everything around you heals. Your relationships deepen beyond what you thought possible. Your income expands as you clear energetic blocks. Your purpose clarifies like morning mist burning away in the sun. Your power awakens, not the old paradigm of power over others, but the true power of a man who knows himself completely.


To those still hesitating, I understand your fears. Vulnerability feels like standing naked under the full moon. Undoing generations of conditioning feels like untangling ancient roots. Processing trauma feels like walking through fire. But on the other side of that fire is everything you've ever wanted – deep connection, true purpose, authentic power.


The women in your lives are tired of carrying the emotional weight of two. They're exhausted from trying to heal both themselves and you. They're done with choosing between their growth and your comfort. And increasingly, they're choosing themselves.


This isn't a threat – it's a reality playing out in homes and hearts across the world. The great awakening is here, and it won't wait for those who choose to stay asleep.

Your soul is screaming for evolution. Your heart is yearning for depth. Your spirit is ready for transformation. The only question is: Will you answer the call?


Because if nothing changes, nothing changes. And in 2024, you cannot afford to stay energetically stagnant anymore. The cost is too high, the stakes too great, the potential too precious to waste.


Start small. Light a candle. Take three conscious breaths. Watch one spiritual video. Journal for five minutes. Book that therapy session. Join a men's circle. Find your guide.


But start.


Your divine masculine essence is waiting to rise, to shine, to transform not just your life but the lives of everyone around you.


The time is now, beloved warriors. The great awakening is here.


Will you rise?

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